I am forced by the passing of time, the transition of life stages, and the expectations of society to grow up and to behave like a "grown-up" (whatever that would constitute). But here, I would just be a little childish, a little self-centered, a little irresponsible, a little too honest but also a little too pretentious.

24, and still counting.




Kept all my past posts intact because my past was what made me, me. Deleting them doesn't change who I am so I revisit my memories sometimes, to learn and to laugh at my past mistakes.

(Just kidding, I revert some posts to drafts because I'm utterly embarrassed.)


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Clean slate. The noun that just popped out as I decide to start writing here again. The problem with putting off writing on a blog is that things just keep happening and day by day it just snowballs and now there’s a massive heap of things I ought to update about. But of course, it is impossible to write about everything especially since it’s been a year. Though it may seem like a coincidence that I picked up writing again in the month of July, these days I’ve been rethinking all the so-call coincidences in life.

Perhaps it is not pure coincidence that the last time I wrote was in July. Maybe it’s because my years follow a different phase now. For the past 12 years of primary to secondary to junior college education, my year follows the academic calendar, starting in January and ending in December. With the busiest periods being the exam periods, as I am a typical student. But now as a University student, my year seems to start in August and end in July. So as August rolls in next month, I guess my hands will be full again.




While blogging does relive stress for me, it has never been effortless or a breeze, like having words flowing out of my fingertips is but a dream. Many a times I was stuck with trying to express my thoughts and feelings, finding the right words, and making the whole entry itself seem consistent without confusing any potential readers. I did consider the option of dayre but I didn’t stick to it for long because it wasn’t really my style…? It is definitely a convenient tool to help record fleeting moments but it was like a short cut I didn’t feel comfortable taking. That said, I might return to it as a last resort.

Oh gosh it just started raining heavily. Totally having the ideal atmosphere to sit down and write. Hahahah. This kind of take me back to where I was talking about “all the so-call coincidences in life”. Now that I think about it again, it’s probably not a coincidence that it started raining as I write till here. It’s highly likely that even before it rains, it has already been breezy and the mood was already there. Usually I will settle down with watching variety shows or dramas but I’ve finished catching up on the shows, also, I’ve been wanting to write for days now, I finally jumped into this. Not by coincidence that I’m writing in July, but that the factors all came together nicely today and here I am.

“All the so-call coincidences in life” that I’ve been thinking about was spurred by this tweet I saw recently: it’s a small world, followed by everyone knows each other. Oh really. Do we now?

Here’s a shared experience: strangers you meet happen to know someone you already know (family, friends, colleagues, acquaintances and whatnot). And you feel this amazing sense of coincidence, and this feeling that the world is so small and we’re all somehow connected. The last phrase probably holds some truth, that we’re all somehow connected. But I don’t think that meeting common people amongst your friends/social circle is the work of coincidence (though it is definitely the most convenient conclusion).




Time check because the top half was written before I went out in the morning. Left home at 11:40 to go to work. Okay I guess I should give a short summary on what I’ve been doing the whole summer. So I’m working part-time as a Student Care Facilitator/Teacher during the weekdays and on the weekends I’m volunteering at the Institute of Mental Health (Singapore). Personally I’ve found this summer break perfect so far. I’ve been spending my days meaningfully, learning new things and enjoying myself along the way. And true to my life philosophy and true to myself, I’ve been making sure to have a BALANCE of different parts of my life.

Anyways, back to where I left off. The whole talk about “coincidence”. While volunteering for IMH, I also signed up for a Community Arts project called “In My Shoes” by Uninhibited Space. Using art as a tool to advocate for mental health, volunteers and mental health patients work together with arts students from NTU ADM (Arts, Design and Media) to put together an exhibition to raise awareness for mental health.

SOOOOOOO COINCIDENTIALLY, one of the artist who I met on the first day of the collaboration happens to be Jiahui’s friend in NTU ADM (FYI Jiahui is Pui Pui who is yours truly’s Year 3 High School friend and who is still one of my most cherished gems though that’s another story for another day). It really felt like PURE COINCIDENCE then, that out of SO MANY people in NTU ADM, she is a friend of a friend. But… after a while I caught myself wondering... is it really a coincidence? That it is a “small world after all”? That “fate brought us together”? (Yes... yours truly truly boh liao and thus have the luxury of time and effort to complicate things in her head)



(The irony of being boh liao enough to create this picture using Microsoft Paint LOL) Sorry for digressing. It can’t be helped cause I’m having a really serious case of food coma. Met my JC friends after work and had: Crystal Jade La Mian Xiao Long Bao (翡翠拉面小笼包) BUFFET, 1/6 of Yiling’s Birthday Cake (Strawberry Shortcake from Four Leaves) and ice-cream from Daily Scoop (ate all these from 7pm to 9pm plus). Yes there’s always room for dessert and they are called the thighs.

MY TUMMY IS BLESSED
BUT MY HEAD'S A MESS
YET I’M NOT THAT STRESS
TILL I HAVE NO PROGRESS

IS THIS A POEM IN THE MIDDLE OF FOOD COMA?! OK I’M GOING BACK TO THE MAIN THEME. What led to yours truly questioning this “coincidence” was this mutual friend’s (the NTU ADM girl I met at the event) remark of how I remind her of Pui Pui and how similar we are. And I wondered that could this have been a factor or a reason that we actually found each other in the midst of other strangers. Maybe because Pui and I are similar, we seek out similar people to make friends with. And this girl has the qualities which we prefer in a friend (down-to-earth is something that popped out in my head). So in NTU ADM when Pui met her, she decide to get to know this girl. And when I met this girl at the volunteering event, we clicked and then we realized we had a mutual friend. Perhaps birds of a feather do flock together.

SOOOOOO if we delve deeper into it, it might not be coincidence that I joined the same event as Pui’s friend. How can it be up to fate when it was our individual choice to join this event which interest us (i.e. mental health). And its highly likely that our area of interest contributes to who we are as a person at this point in life and it could be that Pui is intrigued by our likes (and perhaps dislikes) and became our friend. And when the factors are all in place, we all meet as common friends.




(Throwback to my 20th Birthday (erm... week) and the pleasant surprises I received. Who knows, maybe one day all these gems that I surround myself with, will cross paths and meet each other)

After a long chunk worth of nonsense and (some) sense, my point is that there is hardly any “pure coincidence”. As with the case of mutual friends, if one tries to analyse the reason of how and why you become friends with a certain person, you can see that a number of factors actually contribute to this meeting/opportunity/fateful moment. And by breaking down what leads you there, you can actually learn more about yourself and change the way you direct your own path next time. It is possible to surround yourself with all the gems, all the good people in the world.

So don’t blame it on things like, “oh I attract *this* kind of people”, or that “aiya people will always be like this one la”. Once your direction is wrong, of course you would pick up the wrong people along the way and it will just lead you further and further away. Even with different end goals, when the direction is similar, we might just eventually meet the same people along the way, whether intentionally or not. This is like the idea of what I have in my head:




(Not a very artsy fartsy photo but I'm not here to impress but to inspire. On that note, my first, second and fourth photo has been created using Microsoft Paint while the sixth photo was slightly edited using Microsoft Powerpoint. HAHAHHAHAHAHA. Don't ask me why I dare to admit, I think I just might have slightly lost it at this point.)

To end off, it is no coincidence that one of my current colleague is friends with one of my CCA friend in SMU Conjunct Consulting (Gosh I have yet to update about this. But FYI, joining Conjunct is definitely the best decision I made in University). No coincidence in meeting a friend of a friend (#FOF) because when I looked for a student care facilitator/teacher job, I made sure to search under NCSS and look for a non-profit, VWO company (and not join a private company due to differences in mission and visions). And Conjunct as a CCA was a choice I made because it is a CCA that allows me to give back to society (a community service oriented CCA). It’s no mystery what is my direction, where I hope to go from here. It remains a wonder how things will turn out but no, no thanks to coincidence.

P.S. It's 2016/07/15, 0047. (LOOK AT THE AMOUNT OF TIME I TAKE TO WRITE A POST) Which is why yours truly said that personally, blogging has never been effortless.

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